They live somewhere special- in my heart…..

The other day I thought of my family and a bout of nostalgia took over me which nearly made my heart go limp. I thought of the times we shared together living as a family, the struggles and wins, the differences and compromises and most important the laughter’s and games we played together. Ohh, and not to forget the Saturday mornings when we would all wear our very best and head out to Sabbath mornings. Yes, time is but fleeting and we have found ourselves in different parts of the globe and the once large happy family is in bits but expanding.

As you read this, it may be hard to relate to my experience but for those who are from closely knit families, whether small or large you will share in my opinion. While I lived closer to them (geographically), I may not have fully appreciated that fact but now that I am miles and miles away, I miss them each and every day. I may not be a public person but I stay on Facebook just to read their hilarious updates, catch a glimpse of their photos and keep tabs with their daily lives-Thank you Facebook team! Life desires and aspirations may have led me to where I am now but no single day passes without thinking of the wonderful Mboya family. They may not be my neighbors next door but they are closer than that. They live somewhere special- in my heart. With every heart beat, I see my beloved mother laugh and my father crack a joke. In my smile, I keep the joy and warmth my siblings and parents showered me with while I was closer to them. And every night as I lay me down, I hug my pillow tight and say a little prayer for them

Ohh, yes, they have a special place in my heart and I love them dearly ….. Every day, if not every moment, it’s a family day in my heart; for that’s where they live!

Whilst our beloved hurt…………

Over a fortnight ago, I had a heart to heart talk with someone close to me-a person whom I value very much in my life. It has been great joy having her in my life experience and being the joyful person that she always is, it tore me apart to see her hurt and have self doubt. My desire is always to see her in high spirits for it blesses and uplifts those around her, especially her children. Someone dear to her was hurting her and while the rest of her friends took the stand and criticized the assailant while sympathizing with her, I did the opposite. Well, it may sound conflicting to the point which I stated above, that she is very dear to me, nevertheless, it’s not.

Often we find our friends, family, neighbors or even colleagues in trouble and it is only natural to join the festivity of sorrow, empathize, cry with them and assure how right they are to be in such a lousy mood. Even though we may think we are helping them, wouldn’t it be much better if we spoke to them and told them of better place we desired to see them at? What do we stand to gain when we fall into the abyss of negativity with them? Wouldn’t it be much wiser to stand in the light and spread our open arms to entice them to join us there? When those dear to us are hurting or their hearts are broken, why don’t we take the time to take them away from the pain by shedding a ray of hope through our actions and thoughts? When the lady in my story came to me broken, I saw an image of her in my mind and heart, one that was much more desirable than the one she actually was in. so even though my stand was not clear to her at the beginning, she was later grateful for it showed her the strengths that dwelled within her. She felt no need to mourn or whine instead took advantage of the situation to come out stronger than ever. I couldn’t be happier to be present to witness her smile after such as tumultuous period in her life.

Our intentions may be good but for those who have the shoulders for others to lean on, beware not to let the weight of their burden bring you down. Be alert and influence them to share in the joy that dwells within you. When a beloved approaches you and wants to talk of their ill health, change the subject and speak of good health or better indulge in activities that will make them feel vibrant for it is not wise to stay focused on what many refer to as reality (which such a situation is intense negativity).  

When we love, we desire to see those that are subject to our love, happy and we desire that every experience we share with them be joyous. Whilst our beloved hurt, why not be the instrument to lead and entice them to discover the joy that dwells in them? Whilst today it may be them hurting,  tomorrow, it maybe us who need their shoulder to lean on. So let’s bless each other with our thoughts and share the most beautiful feeling, one without cause, an astrolabe of God’s secret-Love!