It’s without a doubt that most of us have often found ourselves on the other end of the table across a party we have wronged or hurt by our action, words or lack of action. For those who are lucky to have never been on the ‘accused’ side of the table, what I write tonight may not make much sense to you. The other day, I was in a situation where I gravely wronged a dear friend of mine with my defiance or rather stubborn actions and it cost me their friendship. It’s unfortunate that it was the result of the unfortunate happening but I fully accept the consequences of my actions. I am not making a public apology rather I would love to talk about those times when words of apology aren’t enough. When we say sorry or even use simple and complex sentences to apologize to those we have wronged only to be turned away.
What happens when the hearts of the ‘plaintiffs’ are hardened and we have no access to their ears let alone their hearts. The times when we may want to prove that we are worth a second chance but are denied the audience to prove so. We may try words of poetry, songs, or even serenades for those of us who are musicians but what happens when their hurt doesn’t thaw? How do we get across to those we love or care about when they just can’t trust a single word we say?
Do we move and coil our tails between our hind legs as wounded dogs do or do we hope that someday we will be forgiven? Do we tell ourselves, alas, “at least I tried”? Time may move slowly as the feeling of remorse grips our senses while the reality of loosing those close to our hearts dawns our minds. Likewise, the shadows on the walls and the ground may be all we have left whilst the silence of the hollowness left behind deafens us, yet still no reply to our emails, text or missed phone calls.
My topic tonight is to appeal to those hearts that hurt to consider genuine apologies and not let their ego cost them relationships they once valued. Humanity is flawed and often we loose track of what is right or wrong and can only hope that our mistakes are not too grave to cost us a second chance in the lives of those we love. So for those remorseful hearts that read my blog tonight, swallow your pride and use the simplest words and actions to express your desire to be given a second chance. As for those hearts that are hurt, when the pain thaws, give a listening ear and be merciful to grant a second chance. We are all prone to mistakes and even though at times ‘sorry seems to be the hardest thing’ or ‘doesn’t seem enough’; it maybe the simplest way to express the heaviness of our remorseful hearts!
